Mr. Independent

So I just got home from therapy book club. I think this might have been the longest conversation we’ve had about the actual book (Gone Girl- SUCH a good read, though the ending really pissed me off). In other exciting book club news, our friend Beth announced that she’s pregnant and due on Valentine’s Day!

Scottie hosted and baked these really cute blue & pink cupcakes, so we all cast our votes on what we think Beth is having. Looks like the consensus is BOY. (Sorry for the blur)

I actually just got home and it’s after 11. Poor Brian had his hands full with a screaming Isla, but I fed her and she’s fast asleep now. I’m realizing that our monthly book club meeting is kind of a life saver- I love my babies but it’s just really nice to get out, drink wine and hang out with friends.

In the “quest to find fun indoor activities because it’s 120 degrees outside,” Jack, Isla and I met up with Kira, Belle and Luna at the Walnut Hill rec center for open gym playtime today. For $5 the kids can run around from 10-11:15 and the facility is NICE: trampolines, balance beams, bounce houses, balls and lots of stuff to climb on. Jack spent the hour hoarding bouncy balls and yelling at any other kid that dared try to play with one.

We need to work on our sharing.

The other day I stumbled upon this article on Pinterest: Examining Our Daily Routines- How to Structure Your Days to Really Be the Parent You Want to Be. It’s pretty thought-provoking and there’s a LOT of good info. One thing that stuck with me was the idea of letting your kid practice some independence- making their bed, getting dressed on their own, etc. I tend to either view Jack as still a baby who needs me to do everything for him, or I just go ahead and do the task at hand because it’s faster and more efficient. Today I was unloading the dishwasher and, as usual, Jack started grabbing utensils out of the basket. My first instinct was to just shoo him back into the living room, but then I stopped and asked if he wanted to help. He ended up putting all of his plates and cups away on his own and then handed me each piece of our silverware to put in the drawer (I snagged all of the steak knives first). And then when we were done, he actually THANKED ME for letting him help. What?? Sorry, kind of a rambling story but I was really proud of him. And I guess I need to be more mindful of letting him do things on his own, even if it does take a little longer. As the article says, “Teaching these skills takes patience. Kids suck at them at first, so you have to show them about a hundred times, but let them try it, correct them, and let them make mistakes. They will gradually learn independence as you will gradually have less work to do caring for them.

Anyway, read the article… hopefully you’ll enjoy it as much as I did.

Okay, it’s late and I have to take Isla for her 2 month check up in the morning (shots- ugh). Oh, I ran again this morning!!! And again, it was rough. Baby steps, baby steps.

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2 Responses to Mr. Independent

  1. Joy says:

    That’s such a great article! Good reminder to enjoy life at a child’s pace–something I’ve definitely struggled with since having a baby.
    Hope sweet Isla handled her shots OK today!

  2. Nicole says:

    Great article. I find it interesting that a majority of the tips are very similar to the foundation of Montessori style teaching & parenting. Giving a child independence will develop their self esteem and love of learning. Btw, Alejandro loves helping with the dishes too….and cleaning the countertops. Give that kid a sponge and he will clean, clean, clean all around the sink. Great busy work. ;)

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